Awesome advice for an unplugged wedding


This photo is what was actually happening behind me when one of my couples was having their “private” first look at The Ritz Carlton in Dana Point. What can you do?

I’ve got to say, competing with family members and guests for a memorable shot is an ongoing issue for me as a professional wedding photographer in Orange County. For example: I work to get a couple looking beautifully romantic for an image I know is killer. Next to me are 10 people who also want the shot. Typically family or members of the bridal party. Meanwhile, the couple is terribly distracted by all the other lenses staring at them and don’t know where to look. The results are less an ideal for all of us.

If the couple doesn’t speak up, I politely ask the others to let me get the shot, then they can have their chance. What they probably don’t think about is the fact that we’re on a schedule. We are being paid to deliver. And that’s our priority. So, I apologize in advance if you think I’m being selfish, bratty, or {insert adjective here}. I just want to do my job the very best I can.

That being said, the amazingly talented wedding/event planner, consultant extraordinaire Natalie Vishny ( just did a blog post on this very same issue. I couldn’t have said it better myself! Thank you Natalie.

Here are Natalie’s thoughts:

Wedding ceremonies are more fun when your guests turn off their cell phones.  You get to live in the moment and actually “look around” and enjoy.

Twice, in the last week, I’ve been asked from couples about etiquette for unplugged weddings. 

Here are my simple three pieces of advice for wedding couples:

1)  If you have a cool invitation that allows for an extra verbiage line, you actually can say, “At our ceremony, we ask you enjoy and be “unplugged”.  

2)  Have “PARTY signage.”.  This could be a LARGE framed sign at the sign-in book table, or a sign at your greeting beverage station reminding your family and friends to turn off their cells. An example of signage includes, “There’s a person here taking pictures, we’d like to only have one. Please set down your cameras until our ceremony is done.”

3) Make sure that your wedding planning team knows that you would like an unplugged ceremony, so that they can go and provide a note or a hug to the “lady” who is taking photos.

Having an unplugged wedding definitely makes the moment seem more intimate. 

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